We always knew he was kinda different from other cats that he had. For one, he never fully grew into his paws. His nails are huge and don’t retract. One day, when he was a several months old, we let him outside with is brothers and sisters. We went off somewhere and when we returned, he wasn’t on the porch to greet us. My friend grew really worried as that wasn’t like him so we went searching for him. Long story short, he had fallen into a canal, the temperature was 20 degrees and he almost froze to death. With quick thinking, my wife saved his life. He was never the same after that and we believe he has a form of autism. We’ve taken him to the vet and were told he will never be a normal cat in any sense. And it’s true. He can’t fend for himself like our other cats. He can’t fight off predators (we’ve seen him try). He doesn’t spray and has no interest in sex. He hates being held and still can’t retract his claws. Fast forward to the present My best friend has vowed to stick with him. She doesn’t care that he claws her up or her furniture. She loves him too dearly. She has now found herself pregnant. She lives with her mother in law as she can’t afford her own place. Her mother in law has issued an ultimatum- either he goes outside and stays there or he has to be declawed. They can’t chance the baby being clawed up on accident. While it is hurting her greatly, she plans to declaw him not only to appease her mother in law but to just keep him a permanent indoor cat. However, she has seen how people have reacted to her doing such a thing and now she’s at a loss. She can’t give him up (literally no one would want him) but she can’t risk him harming her child or losing him to the outdoors. So my question is this. Is this an acceptable case of her getting declawed or is there another way? We have tried EVERYTHING and nothing has helped. Thank you much.
Well that certainly is a a very specific situation, has she spoken to the vet about his claws and why they don’t retract? problems like that may also lead to underlying health problems too since obviously very unusual.
Has she tried any of the nail covers you can get for cats such as soft paws or soft claws? they are plastic soft covers for cat claws and last rough between 4-6 weeks per application, certainly something to look into if you haven’t already.
otherwise, if his claws don’r retract then why not treat them like dog claws or any other clawed animal and instead of having him declawed simply trim/cut the claws like you would for other clawed animals, cats retract their claws to keep them sharp for hunting but since he cant retract his generally walking around and scratching things should wear them down like dog claws, but this means they would still need to be trimmed (heck all animals with sharp claws need them trimmed so its not out of the question, birds, rodents also need this done and they can have very sharp claws if left unchecked)
doing a quick google search comes up with articles on how to trim cat claws
I see no reason why either of these can’t be safer alternatives as long as it is kept on top of theirs no reason your cats claws can’t be baby proofed though I would advise keeping an eye on them both when the baby does arrive as you should never leave and animal an infant unattaended,
I hope some of that information I wish you the best of luck whatever is decided!